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Some  of us might think that if i get a job of high grade, will be happier in  life, some  will considers that if they can earn million and millions of money they will be happier in their life and some others will  consider if they get what ever they wish , will be happy. But no its a wrong notion because living a materialistic life can’t  brings happiness in all the spheres of life.If you wants to be happier in your marriage life then here it’s top seven rules for  you. 

Rule-1: Don’t Nag.

It can be well explained with this beautiful story-

Napoleon III of France , nephew of Napoleon Bonaparte , fell in love with Marie Eugenic Ignace,the most beautiful woman in the world. Later he married her and they had sound health, wealth, power, fame,love, beauty,fame-all the requirements for a perfect romance. But , alas, the holy flame soon flickered and the incandescence cooled and turned to embers. Napoleon could make Eugenic an empress, but nothing in all la bella France, neither the power of his love nor the might of his throne, could keep her from nagging.Bedeviled by jealousy, devoured by suspicion, she flouted his orders, she denied him even a show of privacy. She broke into his office  while he was engaged in affairs of state. She interrupted his most important discussion.She refused to leave him alone,always fearing that he might be consorting with another woman.Often she ran to her sister complaining of her husband,weeping, nagging and threatening. So, if you wants to be happy in your family life “don’t ever nag or complain”.

Rule-2: Don’t try to make your partner over.

“I may commit many follies in life,”Disraeli said, “but I never intend to marry for love”.And he didn’t till 35 years old and then he proposed to a rich widow (Marry Anne), a widow fifteen years his seniors, a widow whose hairs was white with the passing of  fifty winters,Love?. Oh, no. She knew he did not love her and was marrying for her money. So, she just made a request, she asked him to wait for a year to give her opportunity to study his behaviour and at the end of the year she married him. But no matter how old she looks like, he never criticized her, never a word of reproach and if anyone dared to ridicule her, he sprang to her defence with ferocious loyalty. Though his wife is old yet for three decades she never tired of talking about her husband, praising him and admiring him. So, if you wants to be happy in your marriage life then you should never makes your partner over.

Rule-3: Don’t criticize.

It can be well illustrated with the above mentioned example.

“I may commit many follies in life,”Disraeli said, “but I never intend to marry for love”.And he didn’t till 35 years old and then he proposed to a rich widow (Marry Anne), a widow fifteen years his seniors, a widow whose hairs was white with the passing of  fifty winters,Love?. Oh, no. She knew he did not love her and was marrying for her money. So, she just made a request, she asked him to wait for a year to give her opportunity to study his behaviour and at the end of the year she married him. But no matter how old she looks like, he never criticized her, never a word of reproach and if anyone dared to ridicule her, he sprang to her defence with ferocious loyalty. Though his wife is old yet for three decades she never tired of talking about her husband, praising him and admiring him. So, if you wants happy family life do not criticize.

Rule-4:Give honest appreciation.

In order to understand it better you should follow this with your friends or workers.

According to this silly story, a farm woman, at the end of a heavy  day’s work, set before her men folks a heaping pile of hay.And when they indignantly  demanded whether she would gone crazy, she replied: “Why, how did I know you would notice?. I have been cooking for you men  for the last twenty years ,  and in all that time I have not heard no word to let me know you were not eating hay. So, if you wants to keep your home life happy , one of the most important  rules is to”gives honest appreciation”.

Rule-5: Pay little Attention or expect nothing.

George M. Cohan, busy as he was on broadway, used to telephone his mother twice a day up to the time of her death.Do you suppose he had any startling news for her each time?. No, the meaning of little attentions is this; it shows the person you loive that you are thinking of her, that you are eager and wants to please her, and that her happiness and welfare are very clear and very near to your heart. So, if you want to keeps your family members happy tell them to pay little attention.

Rule-6: Be courteous.

Walter Damrosch married the daughter of James G. Blaine, one of America’s greatest orator and one time candidate for President.They live a happy marriage life do you know what is the secret?.

“Next to care in choosing a partner,” says Mrs Damrosch, “I should place courtesy after marriage.If young wives would only be as courteous to their husbands as to strangers. Any man will run from a shrewish tongue.” So, if you wants to be happy you have to be Courteous.

Rule-7: Read a good book on the sexual side of marriage.

According to Dr Popenoe, failures in marriage is usually due to four causes.He lists them in order:

1. Sexual maladjustment.

2.Different opinions on spending leisure times.

3. Financial difficulties.

4. Mental, physical,or emotional abnormalities.

Notice that sex comes first and that,strangely enough, money difficulties comes only third on the list and so on. So, if you wants to be happy with in the family “read a good book on the sexual side of marriage.”

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